In the Beginning
I might expect that some will question my motive in presenting the abominable behavior of Lida's children. Perhaps some may even ask what purpose an exposé might achieve.
My motive and purpose is to expose the deplorable conspiracy by Lida’s children who when they could no longer justify their absurd attempt to blame a host of others for their failure to achieve anything of substance in their lives or could no longer hide from friends and family their lies and deceptions, decided to use their mother as a scapegoat for the reason they lacked principled, moral, successful lives.
And then when they discovered how easy it was to blame their mother for all their misbegotten ways, they apparently decided why not carry their conspiracy one step further and pursue a concerted effort to punished her in a way I and all of Lida's friends consider to be beyond what any decent person would believe any child would visit upon their mother.
And what did they do? They arbitrarily severed all contact between their mother, themselves and in all but one instance her grandchildren. Moreover in an attempt to make the severance as hurtful as they could make it, it was done during the last seven months of Lida's life. After she had been informed her cancer had returned and was terminal.
Oh... and to insure they would make the several months prior to her death as difficult as they could they conspired to insure Lida would not receive a Christmas, New Year, Mother's Day or a Birthday card, gift or phone call or even an acknowledgment of the Christmas gifts Lida had sent to them and to each of the grandchildren.
Before I relate the egregious behavior of each of Lida's four children individually let me define what I believe their degenerate personality traits are. This will allow you to judge for yourself if in fact one or more of these degenerate personality trait(s) can be assigned to her children.
1. Narcissism characterized by grandiosity, pride, egotism, and a lack of empathy.
2. Machiavellianism characterized by manipulation and exploitation of others, a cynical disregard for morality, and a focus on self-interest and deception.
3. Psychopathy characterized by enduring antisocial behavior, impulsiveness, selfishness, callousness, and remorselessness.
Now one might say that just because Lida was their mother did not necessarily mean that now and then there might not have been legitimate disagreements that might have precipitated a communication problem. But I submit to you that Lida never did anything that would warrant a conspiracy by her children to let her die without telling her they loved her and a goodbye or even why they were doing what they were doing..
Note: If you have any doubt as to the extraordinarily high esteem Lida's contribution to the care and well being of underprivileged and delinquent children was held, go to my Facebook (Albert B Winchell) and her 'A few things that made Lida special', go past the social stuff and check out her awards for her work with juveniles. I believe it will be difficult for even the most cynical to believe Lida was a closet abuser capable of mistreating or neglecting her own children or grandchildren.
Although I know most who read this blog will be aware of the caste of characters but because this expose is so extraordinary I am going to use only first names until the end of my Blog. My hope is to tweak the curiosity of those who are unaware of the Degenerate Johnsons and because they could not conceive of any sibling(s) being so cruel to their mother might not finish reading this Blog.
The following is a brief resume of each of Lida's children and why I believe you will agree they are poster children for degenerates.
* Cynthia, Lida's first born is an example of a daughter who born a frump could never cope with not being able to compete with her mother's glamour and social graces. Ironically a competition that was totally unnecessary and only existed because of Cynthia's narcissistic, self centered personality and not because of any completion initiated by her mother.
Fortunately however Cynthia was able to find a gentle trusting soul who truly cared for her and who was able to provide a privileged lifestyle. A lifestyle that inflated her sense of self worth deceiving Cynthia into believing her lifestyle alone would temporarily fool her contemporaries into believing she had social graces and personal worth.
Unfortunately she failed miserably with her contemporaries but did succeed in fooling the fools - her three siblings. And by fooling the fools was able to encourage them to join her in a conspiracy to discredit her mother and by doing so assume the status of family matriarch.
To list all Cynthia's attempts at undermining and discrediting her mother would be almost too unbelievable for anyone but Lida's friends to believe. So I decided to provide just a sample of her most egregious.
When in December 2011 she became aware her mother's cancer had returned and was terminal, Cynthia could not find the time to contact her mother or even send a card on Lida's last Christmas, Mother's Day or Birthday. Nor did Cynthia make any effort to contact her mother in the last few days of her life to tell her mom she loved her and say goodbye.
And to make the conspiracy so insidious, Cynthia convinced her siblings to let her mother die without telling her why they were preventing her from having any contact with them and the grandchildren.
It should be noted that their conspiracy of no contact and silence was instantly terminated when Cynthia learned of her mother's death.
When she was informed her mother had died on a Friday, Cynthia expeditiously contacted the executor of Lida's Trust that day and ask what paper work was needed to begin the process of Trust disbursement and then the following Monday left me a message that she and her siblings would graciously allow me a reasonable time to grieve before they expected me to provide them an opportunity to retrieve Lida's possessions they believed was their due.
I should mention in regard to Lida's Trust that because it was irrevocable I nor anyone else could not threaten it's equal disbursement among the four children. However in another example of Cynthia's warped sense of avarice and self entitlement when she discovered the settlement would take longer than suited her, she threatened the executor with a lawsuit.
Although the following does not directly involve Lida I believe it will add credence to just how warped and insidious Cynthia's character is.
After 30 years of marriage any indication by her family and acquaintances she deserted her husband while he was on a business trip and made no effort to contact her children to tell then where she was going or why. The only explanation given by her siblings as to why she deserted her husband was that he had committed a terrible injustice which was so onerous only her siblings knew the story. The dastardly deed was not even revealed when her husband sued her for divorced. Of which he was successful in achieving.
Although Cynthia has blamed everyone else for her life's failures. I ask you... If you had to decide her credibility would you not be influenced by the indisputable fact she allow her mother to die without saying goodbye or an I love you?
* And now for Charles. If you are a daughter you will most likely be appalled. If you are a son your response will most likely be "no way would I ever believe a son could do that to his mother".
Charles has always tried to walk the walk but could never accomplish anything more than talk the talk. And because he is not very bright, he was easily persuaded to join Cynthia's conspiracy against her mother.
Be as it may, Lida adored her son and always believed there was nothing that could come between them. Oh well.. guess what. He did something to his mother that is beyond cruel.
Lida suffered from Macular Degeneration for over 7 years. Prior to her last Christmas and after she had been told her cancer had returned and it was terminal she composed Christmas cards with a check in each for her children and 12 grandchildren. Because of her macular and because she wanted to write a note and a check to be included in each card it literally took many hours for Lida to complete the task. Unfortunately because she was unsure of a couple of the addresses she packaged all of them in one mailer and sent them to her son.
Charles not only failed to contacted his mother on her last Christmas he made sure his children did not either. And to make sure he was adhering to the Johnson conspiracy, returned the packaged Christmas cards and checks to Lida unopened stamped by the post office "Return to Sender". And to make his actions even more insidious, they were returned to Lida while she was in the hospital.
When my sister contacted Charles daughter after the Christmas package of cards had been returned his daughter sadly reported she was not only unaware of the cards and gifts, but told my sister her farther had not mentioned to her or her brothers that their grandmother's cancer had returned and was terminal.
I'm sure the preceding is enough for most to write off Charles as a beyond contemptible.
* Susan's betrayal of her mother is for me the most disconcerting as all of her conspiracy activities took place only 30 miles from her mother.
Suddenly and arbitrarily without providing any reason other than she no longer approved of her mother's lifestyle she ended all contact with her mother and forbid any contact between her three children and their grandmother.
Perhaps my final correspondence (in 2014) with Susan best describes the totality of Susan's betrayal.
One of your mother's truly cherished possessions one that she did not ask me to be distribute or returned was the 4 angels your daughters sent her many years ago when she was ill.
So because I cannot blame your children for their boorish behavior, I decided to return the 4 Angels to them.
By the way how were you able to convince your children to cash your mother's final Christmas checks the ones because she was almost unable to write legibly took her hours to address and sign and then be sure they did not acknowledge her gift?
Be as it may I have a second question. Obviously rhetorical.
Was the fact that as you said you could not deal with you mother's lifestyle the reason you could not stop by and tell her you loved her and say goodbye before she died when you where only less than an hour away?
Apparently her lifestyle was not an issue when you needed your mother to bail you out of a life threatening relationship and bring you home from Oregon; needed her to bail you out from yet another threatening relationship in Southwest Florida and needed her to purchase food and Pampers for your children when you and Sean could not feed or care for your children.
Susan. Your lifestyle I could never understand but the one when you mentioned to your mother she never questioned or condemned... was using abortion as your choice of birth control. As I recall you told her one of the reasons you had three children was your guilt for three of your abortions.
In my opinion you have very little credibility when it comes to judging any lifestyle let alone your mother’s.
* The final conspirator is Anne. To be fair and in my opinion because Anne is intellectually challenged and has a serious anger control issue, she is the one the other children only associate with when it is in their interest to do so.
But be as it may Anne did her best to live up to the conspiracy expectations of her siblings.
As an example of her participation in the Johnson Conspiracy the following is a letter I sent her which I believe exposes Anne's betrayal of her mother.
Enclosed please find the final Account Statement from State Street concerning your mother's trust. I want each of you to be aware of the final disbursement so as there will be no future misunderstands. I'm sure it will be a document you will want to keep.
Apropos of receiving your mother's trust statement, by coincidence I just happened to be organizing for posting all the demanding and accusing emails you all have sent to me, my family and my friends when I came upon the comment about your mother that you emailed to my sister and I quote: "My mother had quite an imagination about how we treated her, she never took responsible (did you mean responsibility) for her own flaws and deemed us undesireables (your spelling)".
This pontificating and your Facebook announcement to the world after she had died that your mother was not perfect, would seem to me to be observations that would best be made by the likes of a Saint Teresa rather than by a woman who has so little respect for her own family she has allowed herself to become an obese middle-aged women with an uncontrolled temper that she arbitrarily visits on anyone she pleases whenever she pleases regardless of whether or not her wrath has any credibility.
Note the before and after photos I have enclosed. Are they not proof positive that by allowing yourself to morph from an attractive young lady to an unkempt, obese middle aged women you have demonstrated a lack of respect for your family? Being a physical embarrassment with periodic well documented rages e.g., at you sons school certainly can not have endeared you to friends and acquaintances.
And how do you dare criticize your mother in public when you had the audacity to betray your husband to his superiors. So disconcerting was your betrayal, your husband found it necessary to express his concern and seek advice from your mother (not his mother) many times and at times do so surreptitiously from work.
Be as it may the blood money you have received should help you deal with the burden of having a mother who as you pontificated never took "responsible" (your word) for her own flaws.
Finally my hope is that this blog will remain in cyberspace for those who would appreciate knowing the real story behind the Johnson conspiracy to blame their mother for their miserable lives.
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